I often find myself thinking back to the 2020 Selective Mutism Summit, and how powerful it was to be part of such an important conversation, especially around teenagers and adults with selective mutism.

I’m still incredibly grateful to Kelly Melhorn for creating that space and bringing so many voices together. It was, and still is, a truly valuable resource (and yes—it can still be purchased at selectivemutismhelp.com if you missed it).

One of the key reflections I carry with me from that experience is this:

It’s not always about speaking.

So often, the focus is placed on words, on getting someone to talk, to respond, to “overcome” silence. But for teenagers and adults, especially, the journey is so much broader and deeper than that.

It’s about:

• Building resilience
• Discovering what feels safe and meaningful
• Leaning into strengths, interests, and passions
• Creating opportunities for connection without pressure

When we shift the focus from what’s not happening (speech) to what is happening (engagement, creativity, presence), everything changes.

A teenager who doesn’t speak in class might be:

• An incredible artist
• A thoughtful writer
• A deeply empathetic friend

An adult navigating selective mutism may have built remarkable coping strategies, insight, and perseverance that often go unseen.

Our role is not just to help them speak, it’s to help them thrive.

And sometimes, thriving begins when we stop asking, “Why aren’t they talking?” and start asking,
“What do they enjoy? What lights them up? What feels possible right now?”

That’s where real progress begins.

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Anna Biavati
Speech Therapist, Creator of the Brave Muscle Method, Founder of Steps To Brave Talking
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